After years of downplaying his Haitian roots, anthropologist and writer Rich Benjamin changed course when a catastrophic earthquake hit Haiti in 2010. He wanted to rush there to learn and help. His Haitian American mother, Danielle Benjamin, had a different take. Don’t go, she begged. But if you must go: Wear a tie.
After all, the family had a position to maintain. Benjamin’s maternal grandfather, Daniel Fignolé, was a charismatic populist politician forced into exile in 1957 by Haitian dictator François “Papa Doc” Duvalier, with covert assistance from the U.S. government. Fignolé returned only briefly in 1986, at the end of his life, following the fall of the Duvaliers.
Talk to Me: Lessons from a Family Forged by History is Benjamin’s account of the intergenerational trauma caused by the family’s wrenching experiences in Haiti and struggles in the U.S. Benjamin, the author of Searching for Whitopia, depicts Danielle, who ultimately became a United Nations official, as a fierce mother with impossibly high standards. As he learns more about the violence and emotional abuse that she and her seven siblings suffered in Haiti and New York as children, a subject she had never openly discussed with her children, he begins to understand and forgive.
Benjamin explores in depth the lives of his grandparents and other relatives in a novelistic style that immerses us in the vital, chaotic world of pre-Duvalier Haiti. We see the family’s rise and fall in Port-au-Prince largely through his mother’s eyes, as her relatively privileged childhood lurches first into deadly peril, then into the grinding hardship of exile. Benjamin then shifts into a memoir of his own early life, when family affluence and his educational achievements masked inner uncertainty complicated by chronic illness.
Benjamin is a vivid writer whose honesty spares no one, including himself in his party-boy years. He depicts his grandfather as a dedicated advocate for the poor who was also an overbearing, self-centered husband and father; Danielle, brave and driven, achieved worldly success, but it came at a high emotional cost to her own family. In Talk to Me, violence, whether in war, politics, crime or families, has a long afterlife that is dangerous to overlook.