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Every once in a while a book comes along that is everything one wants it to be; such is the case with Marjorie Hart’s Summer at Tiffany. Hart’s infectious telling of her wide-eyed introduction to New York City during the summer of 1945 is charming and fun. She begins by reciting the names of the department stores along Fifth Avenue, some now only legends, as seen from the top of a double-decker bus: Bergdorf Goodman. Bonwit Teller. Cartier. De Pinna. Saks Fifth Avenue. Peck &andamp; Peck. Hart and her best friend and sorority sister, Marty, have come east with meager savings and big ambitions: to score a job in one of those stores. They already possess Vogue-inspired wardrobes and a Manhattan address and soon they’ll become Tiffany’s first-ever female pages (in-house couriers) wearing a uniform of the most perfect day dresses Hart has ever seen, shirtwaist style in an aqua-blue silk Jersey and from Bonwit’s no less.

Summer at Tiffany offers a rare behind-the-scenes peek at the iconic store, where Marlene Dietrich, newlyweds Judy Garland and Vincente Minnelli, a steady stream of the 400 and Old Man Tiffany himself (Charles Lewis Tiffany II) come through the doors. But, of course Hart’s summer is not all work; she writes of lunches at the Automat, her first taxi ride and Stork Club visit, and of not jitterbugging ( Gene Krupa’s drumsticks were flying, and he was chewing gum faster than the beat. ). Though the war is not the main story here, it is nevertheless always present, in nylon shortages and store closures, oh-so dateable servicemen, sad news from home, the B-25 flying into the fogbound Empire State Building and, finally, VJ Day in Times Square.

Part of Summer at Tiffany’s charm lies in the intersection of the girls’ youthful spirit and the sophistication of the city (reminiscent of Rona Jaffe’s The Best of Everything and Truman Capote’s Breakfast at Tiffany’s). Equally compelling is that Hart was able to recreate the essence of that summer decades later, developing the book at the urging of her grandchildren and then having it discovered during a writers conference. Alas, MiChelle Jones has never purchased anything at Tiffany & Co.

 

Every once in a while a book comes along that is everything one wants it to be; such is the case with Marjorie Hart's Summer at Tiffany. Hart's infectious telling of her wide-eyed introduction to New York City during the summer of 1945 is…

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Within the company of songwriters, Rodney Crowell is a revered name, particularly in the field of country music. His compositions include ”’Til I Gain Control Again,” “Ashes By Now,” “An American Dream,” “Even Cowgirls Get the Blues,” “Song for the Life,” “Shame on the Moon” and the Grammy-winning “After All This Time.” He has also earned considerable distinction as a recording artist, scoring five No. 1 country hits in a row during the late 1980s.

 

But the reader will learn nothing of these achievements in Chinaberry Sidewalks, Crowell’s simultaneously gritty and affectionate account of growing up as an only child in post-World War II Houston, Texas. His focus is on his dirt-poor, blue-collar parents—J.W. and Cauzette—who could charitably be called “dysfunctional” but more accurately “abusive.” And yet Crowell’s stories brim with appreciation for them, even as they keep him wary and occasionally terrorized by the side effects of their corrosive discontent with the world and each other.
 
 
J.W. drinks too much and falls too short of his modest dreams; Cauzette, besides being epileptic (a source of pity and embarrassment to young Crowell), seeks comfort in raw, hellfire Christianity.  One of the earliest coping skills Crowell develops is discerning his father’s mood by the way he pulls his battered car into the driveway. But the father who is quick to lash out is also sensitive enough to take his two-year-old son to see what would prove to be the great Hank Williams’ next-to-last performance. And his mother is a daily example of courage and inventiveness under fire.

 

Crowell emerges from his narrative as a latter-day Huck Finn, a cheeky kid who finds adventures, friends and grotesquely comic adults in every corner of his scrappy neighborhood. Fortunately, he brings to these adventures Tom Sawyer’s romantic imagination. Indeed, it is his imagination that makes his hardscrabble existence not just tolerable but inspirational. A graceful prose writer, Crowell is able to convey his fears and deprivations without being maudlin or sentimental.

 

Ultimately, Chinaberry Sidewalks is a hymn to resilience, to the ability to understand, compartmentalize, contextualize, rationalize and forgive until all the causes for bitterness and self-pity are distilled away and only the residue of love remains.

 

Edward Morris has written about country music for CMT.

 

Read our account of Rodney Crowell's pre-release reading and party in Nashville.
 

 

Within the company of songwriters, Rodney Crowell is a revered name, particularly in the field of country music. His compositions include ”’Til I Gain Control Again,” “Ashes By Now,” “An American Dream,” “Even Cowgirls Get the Blues,” “Song for the Life,” “Shame on the Moon”…
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In a literary marketplace flooded with memoirs, I approached the reading of The Memory Palace with apprehension. The title sounds awfully familiar, and the publisher’s press release makes no apologies, announcing that the book follows “in the footsteps of The Glass Castle and The Liars’ Club.” I took a deep breath and prepared for another harrowing tale of how a mother ruined a daughter’s life.

But I set my skepticism aside after reading the first chapter of The Memory Palace, when I discovered that Mira Bartók’s account of her tortured upbringing by a schizophrenic mother is as compelling as the two best-selling memoirs to which it is compared. The book also boasts a strong storyline and eloquent writing. Bartók hooked me with this early passage: “We children of schizophrenics are the great secret-keepers, the ones who don’t want you to think that anything is wrong.”

Norma Herr is a musical prodigy whose schizophrenia slowly takes control of her life. After she gives birth to two daughters, Mira and Rachel, her husband leaves her. As her illness worsens, Norma struggles to raise her children, and fails. Her head is filled with voices, images of dangerous animals and of alien abductors. She threatens to kill herself, and threatens her daughters, too, should they reveal her terrible secret. She keeps detailed diaries and hoards small knickknacks and mementos.

As she reaches adulthood, Mira Herr is able to escape her mother by moving to another town and becoming Mira Bartók, an accomplished artist and children’s book author. (She makes the painful decision to change her name, taking the last name of Hungarian composer Bela Bartók, in order to avoid poison-pen letters, midnight phone calls and unannounced visits from her deranged mother.) But Bartók’s life takes an ironic twist when, at age 40, she is involved in a car accident that affects her memory. Suddenly, she is fighting to retrieve her memories; like her mother, she is engaged in a battle with her brain. When she later discovers her mother is dying of cancer, Bartók ends her estrangement. Finding her mother’s trove of diaries, letters and the arcane items she had collected, Bartók uses them to construct a “memory palace,” and is able to reconstruct portions of her childhood.

Bartók’s story overcame my memoir phobia with a page-turning plot, sophisticated writing and, as a bonus, vivid illustrations from the author. It does indeed deserve to be mentioned in the same breath as The Glass Castle and The Liars’ Club, and readers of those memoirs will find The Memory Palace richly rewarding.

 

In a literary marketplace flooded with memoirs, I approached the reading of The Memory Palace with apprehension. The title sounds awfully familiar, and the publisher’s press release makes no apologies, announcing that the book follows “in the footsteps of The Glass Castle and The Liars’…

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Named one of the 10 best books of 2006 by the New York Times, this powerful memoir marks the debut of a promising new author. Trussoni was raised in Wisconsin by her overbearing, emotional, occasionally violent father, Dan. A Vietnam veteran who served as a tunnel rat during the war, Dan is haunted by his experiences and a bit too fond of the bottle as a result. A patron of Roscoe’s, a local beer joint, he brings Danielle along to the bar most evenings. She soon begins cutting class and stealing. Meanwhile, her siblings a brother, Matt, and a sister, Kelly are being raised by her mom. Trussoni recounts her eventful adolescence years marked by family brawls, drug use and Dan’s dark moods with unflinching honesty and humor. She eventually travels to Vietnam in an attempt to share in her father’s experience there, and the passages about her journey are moving and profound. Trussoni’s gradual acceptance of her flawed father will resonate with readers. The difficulties Dan goes through as he tries to come to grips with his years in Vietnam make for heart-wrenching, all too timely reading. This is one hell of a coming-of-age tale, told by a gifted writer who isn’t afraid of self-exploration and who is brave enough to lay bare her own imperfections as she tries to achieve closure with her troubled family.

Named one of the 10 best books of 2006 by the New York Times, this powerful memoir marks the debut of a promising new author. Trussoni was raised in Wisconsin by her overbearing, emotional, occasionally violent father, Dan. A Vietnam veteran who served as a…
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Reading master pastry chef Roland Mesnier’s All the Presidents’ Pastries: Twenty-Five Years in the White House, you can’t help but wonder how the last five presidents still managed to fit into the Oval Office by the end of their terms. Surprisingly, Mesnier’s life before he got to the White House was at least as interesting as the years he spent satisfying the dessert palates of the world’s leaders.

Following in his brother’s footsteps, Mesnier left his small village at age 14 to enter the traditional French apprenticeship system. With an incredible drive to master new skills, he moved on to some of the world’s finest hotels and pastry shops. He cooked in the legendary kitchen of London’s Savoy, discovered how to create sugar sculptures despite the intense humidity in Bermuda, introduced an entirely new set of pastries at one of the oldest hotels in the U.S. without the staff even realizing that they’d been retrained and began winning award after award for his work.

From this illustrious beginning, Mesnier moves on to describe the events, the desserts and the people he encounters throughout his White House tenure. Aside from a couple of near-misses (one with a marzipan figure of a sleepy Mexican), Mesnier successfully created extravagant desserts reflecting national cultures, cuisines or historical events, from a chocolate military aircraft carrier for George W. Bush’s birthday to five white doves made from lemon sorbet placed on a nest of fresh fruit, each with a sugar olive branch in its beak served to Yitzhak Rabin to signify the Oslo accords. Packing 25 years of desserts into one book can occasionally begin to read like a laundry list, and it’s slightly odd to hear someone wonder if a planned barbeque will be cancelled when discussing the early hours of 9/11. But being executive pastry chef at the White House is no ordinary job and Mesnier follows his own golden rule to a tee: Never forget where and for whom you are working. Megan Brenn-White graduated from the chef’s training program at the Natural Gourmet School of Cookery and is the author of Bake Me a Cake (HarperCollins).

Reading master pastry chef Roland Mesnier's All the Presidents' Pastries: Twenty-Five Years in the White House, you can't help but wonder how the last five presidents still managed to fit into the Oval Office by the end of their terms. Surprisingly, Mesnier's life before…

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By the early 1970s, the comforting idealism of the ’60s was already morphing into terrifying reality, bombarding a generation of young people with visually convincing scenarios of catastrophe and mayhem. “On every movie screen,” Heather Havrilesky wryly bemoans in the introduction to Disaster Preparedness, “airplanes plummeted to the ground, earthquakes toppled huge cities, and monster sharks ripped teenagers to bloody bits.” The world was obviously a precarious place and conventional methods of self-preservation offered no succor. People who “exited calmly with the crowd . . . were always the ones to perish first. Only a small band of survivors willing to plot out their own escape route and battle their way through untold mishaps had any hope of making it out alive.”

So plot she did. Armed with a dark sense of humor, a toughness nurtured by parents unwilling to feed her fairy tales or “comforting myths” and a stoicism stemming from the seeming indifference of a God disinclined to provide the simplest sign of celestial reassurance, Havrilesky formulated her own plans for any emergency, from nuclear war to the taunting of her preteen peers. Droll, insightful and tenaciously honest, Disaster Preparedness chronicles her roller-coaster journey through the confusion of childhood, the devastation of her parents’ divorce and the angst of a teenager coming of age in the ’80s. “In 1986,” she vividly recalls, “heartbreak drove a canary yellow ’78 Pinto with The Who’s ‘Baba O’Riley’ playing in the tape deck. Heartbreak looked just like Damone from Fast Times at Ridgemont High . . . and quoted Pee Wee Herman liberally, even when he was breaking up with me.”

At times hilarious, at times achingly sincere, Disaster Preparedness delivers a fun-to-read memoir laced with frank self-reflection as our heroine marches toward adulthood, doggedly traversing life’s mountains—loss, shame, regret—and begins the thorny search for love. Fans familiar with Havrilesky’s pointed humor from her work as a staff writer at Salon.com and as a commentator for NPR’s “All Things Considered” will recognize her candid voice and sharp wit, but will also find complexity, depth and tenderness here as she ultimately renders compassionate, loving portraits of her parents, shares her darkest secrets with best-friend intimacy and wrestles gritty optimism from an uncertain world.

By the early 1970s, the comforting idealism of the ’60s was already morphing into terrifying reality, bombarding a generation of young people with visually convincing scenarios of catastrophe and mayhem. “On every movie screen,” Heather Havrilesky wryly bemoans in the introduction to Disaster Preparedness, “airplanes…

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At 12, Ishmael Beah was a bit of a naughty boy. He didn’t bother to tell anyone where he was going when he, his older brother and a friend set off to walk from their village in Sierra Leone to rap and dance in a talent show 16 miles away. He thought there was no need, because they’d be back soon. Rebel troops chose that day in 1993 to attack his village, burning the houses and slaughtering or driving off the inhabitants. Ishmael never saw his family again. When he was 13, the Sierra Leone government army press-ganged him into a unit of boy soldiers to fight the rebels. By 15, he was a hardened cutthroat, too drugged and traumatized to feel any pity when he killed.

Beah did ultimately escape that life, through luck and cleverness. Now a 25-year-old American college graduate, he has written A Long Way Gone, a memoir of exceptional power. Beah doesn’t bother much with the convoluted politics behind the civil war that seems now finally to have ended, though he does include a helpful chronology at the end of the book. This is his deeply personal story. In vivid detail, he takes us inside the mind of the boy he was: frightened, depressed, hungry, helpless, alone. When the little boy is first handed an AK-47, he is terrified of it. His superior officers, including a lieutenant who quotes Shakespeare, make the boys into killing machines by feeding them drugs and playing on their desire to avenge families massacred by rebels. Beah’s own psychological turning point comes when two friends are killed while fighting beside him. After that, he has no trouble pulling his trigger. Even after he has the good fortune to be turned over to a United Nations rehabilitation program, Beah’s shell shock doesn’t end. Weeks of monstrous behavior is followed by years of migraines, flashbacks and crippling survivor’s guilt. The recovered Beah now works with Human Rights Watch and speaks out for children’s rights. A Long Way Gone is compelling evidence for that cause.

Anne Bartlett is a journalist in Washington, D.C.

At 12, Ishmael Beah was a bit of a naughty boy. He didn't bother to tell anyone where he was going when he, his older brother and a friend set off to walk from their village in Sierra Leone to rap and dance in a…
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Even people from slightly less remote villages in Papau New Guinea could barely imagine visiting the corner of the jungle where Sabine Kuegler grew up. The resident Fayu tribe had been engaged in decades-long civil warfare and all contact with the outside world had been forgotten. Enter a German family with three children under the age of nine and two linguist parents who are intent on documenting the Fayu language. Kuegler would later be trapped between her primitive upbringing and her European heritage; she grew up a true child of the jungle, which is the title of her memoir.

Kuegler learns to speak Fayu, shoot a bow and arrow, and always shake out her boots in case of scorpions. Though her family receives occasional supplies from the outside world, Kuegler eats a local menu: The huge red ants were quite popular and easy to find. . . . Grilled bat wings are nice and crispy. . . . ever-present grubs were another tasty alternative. She witnesses tribal warfare, the process of stealing young girls for wives, massive floods and disease, but in Child of the Jungle she focuses on the benefits of growing up in a tropical paradise.

Admitting in the preface that as an adult she is unhappy and feeling lonely and lost, lives the life of a vagabond seems a completely appropriate reaction to such a huge transition and an honest ending to a story that is incredible and very real at the same time. In spite of the compelling subject, however, the book can be disjointed at times and readers will have their curiosity unsatisfied (save for a short chapter at the end) about Kuegler’s transition to a boarding school in Switzerland at age 17. In addition, although her parents were not technically missionaries, they did want to bring peace to the Fayu and their impact on the traditional way of life is completely unquestioned by their daughter. And yet, Child of the Jungle, a bestseller when published in Europe two years ago, is well worth reading.

Megan Brenn-White has written and edited for the Let’s Go travel guide series.

Even people from slightly less remote villages in Papau New Guinea could barely imagine visiting the corner of the jungle where Sabine Kuegler grew up. The resident Fayu tribe had been engaged in decades-long civil warfare and all contact with the outside world had been…
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Although journalist Tom Bissell was only an infant when South Vietnam finally fell to the communists in 1975, the war that culminated in that event has cast a particularly tenacious shadow across his family and his own psyche. Bissell’s father was wounded in Vietnam and after leaving the service in 1967, watched in disgust as politics and ineptitude sullied the blood that he and his comrades had spilled there. As Bissell sees it, the injuries the war inflicted on his father had a lot to do with his parents divorcing when he was only three years old.

In an effort to better understand his father and the war, Bissell constructs parallel histories of each. The first part of The Father of All Things imagines his father’s mood and actions at home the day Saigon fell. On April 29, 1975, my father was losing something of himself. . . . This was the certainty that what he had suffered in Vietnam was necessary. Interspersing these agonizing scenes are well documented, near photographic accounts of how Saigon and the U.S. Embassy in particular were overrun. In the second and longest section of the book, Bissell describes the journey he and his father made through Vietnam in 2003. Alongside this personal chronicle, he lays out the stages of that country’s turbulent evolution and assesses what it has become today.

Bissell’s obvious adoration for his father is balanced nicely by his ongoing annoyance at the older man’s caginess and unpredictability. While there are many revealing moments between the two, there is no epiphany that cleanses everything. The father’s sense of self will forever be shaped by his war experiences, but now the son can feel that he’s shared in them, however minimally.

All this ruminating about the tentacles of the past might have become intolerably grave or dreary. But Bissell’s wandering and deliciously wicked eye keeps this from happening. Still, war is always a horror story. And as Bissell strives to put the ghosts of Vietnam to rest, one can see the ghosts of Iraq arising behind another generation. Edward Morris reviews from Nashville.

 

Although journalist Tom Bissell was only an infant when South Vietnam finally fell to the communists in 1975, the war that culminated in that event has cast a particularly tenacious shadow across his family and his own psyche. Bissell's father was wounded in Vietnam…

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There just might be a God after all, because without divine intervention Keith Richards would not still be alive to have written his autobiography.

Now 67, residing peaceably as a country gentleman in Connecticut after nearly half a century swirling in the gale force winds of a truly international drugs-sex-and-rock-‘n’-roll music career, Richards turns out to be a vastly entertaining chronicler of his own life and legacy, helped along masterfully by “as told to” coauthor James Fox, who deftly captures the gravelly Richards voice, honest as the day is long and laced with authentic Britishisms that help to colorize a surprisingly tight and crisp narrative. Entitled Life, the Richards opus is essentially plotted out chronologically, which should work just fine for those many music fans who may have paid more attention to Richards’ contemporaries—Lennon, McCartney, Jagger—and probably overlooked the particulars of the Rolling Stones’ musical mastermind’s beginnings.

Growing up in suburban London as the only child of working-class parents, young Keith wasn’t apparently much good academically, but he ended up—lucky for him—in art school, that refuge for English schoolboys with vaguely creative leanings that might ultimately rescue them from a life in the trades or, worse, the military. If music ever saved an immortal soul, it was Richards’. He was good at drawing, apparently, but a career in commercial art would be rejected so long as Keith kept improving on the guitar, which he definitely did.

He knew Mick Jagger when both were but boys, then they later hooked up again hardly out of their teens on the local music scene. Unlike the Beatles, who spent some very scruffy years learning their craft in lowdown Hamburg nightclubs, the early Stones, while definitely scrambling for gigs and attention, were already at the center of things in London. The band’s cultish immersion in American black R&B artistry eventually yielded for them a dedicated big-city following, while manager Andrew Loog Oldham became their version of Brian Epstein, finally embracing their bad-boy looks and demeanor and marketing them effectively as a kind of anti-Fab Four. Worldwide stardom and acclaim were theirs, and the band in various forms has lasted, remarkably, up to the present day.

Even in nearly 600 pages—and sometimes drawing on rare letters and diary entries—Richards can’t cover all the details, but he’s quite good with the essence. To wit: Endless and raucous touring, peripatetic recording dates, drug-taking and related arrests, a longtime relationship with the charismatic wastrel Anita Pallenberg, fatherhood (five kids, one a victim of crib death), the premature passing of fellow artists and friends such as Brian Jones and Gram Parsons, an overview on the band’s financial workings under the exploitative guidance of the sharkish Allen Klein, plus once-over-lightly cameos of the many musicians, roadies, engineers, producers, journalists, photographers, hangers-ons, and celebrity types who helped comprise The World’s Greatest Rock ’n’ Roll Band’s entourage through the decades.

The warmest words are reserved for an elite few, among them, the late Ian Stewart, a fabulous R&B pianist and thoughtful musician who helped the band cut its early records and stayed a staunch friend and musical supporter until his untimely death from a heart attack in 1985. Also assessed cogently are the many sides of Jagger, the author mincing no words about the famous frontman’s uncanny talents as a lyricist, his ego, his occasionally abrasive ways and his rather possessive tendencies toward his writing partner.

On the purely musical side, Richards offers fascinating tidbits on his playing style, developed initially via his studious copping of licks from Chuck Berry and Jimmy Reed records and later enhanced by his exploration of  various open tunings, which brought his expression and writing to surprising new levels.

Intentionally or no, Richards finds humor in his raw material. On Jagger’s solo album She’s the Boss: “It’s like Mein Kampf. Everybody had a copy, but nobody listened to it.” On heroin: “Junk really is a great leveler in many ways.” On groupies: “You could look upon them more like the Red Cross.”

The real miracle of  Richards is his survival through serious encounters with hard drugs, especially as he watched many friends and colleagues succumb to their ravages. His reflections on substance abuse seem serious-minded as far as it goes, but the fact is that he partied like a monster and simply happened to be one of the lucky ones.

Later chapters find Richards rather tempered by concerns such as recipes for a favorite dish or two, family pets, a daughter’s wedding and other items on the domestic agenda. That situation guarantees a certain amount of laconic audience interest as the book winds down, but until then,Life is probably one of the best pop music books ever assembled. It’s informative, entertaining, crafted with style—and there’s something reassuring about knowing that its likable author has lived to tell the tale.

There just might be a God after all, because without divine intervention Keith Richards would not still be alive to have written his autobiography.

Now 67, residing peaceably as a country gentleman in Connecticut after nearly half a century swirling in the gale force winds of…

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Mary Childers’ large, fatherless family moved from one dilapidated apartment to another. Even when the family seemed to be trading up, moving out of a basement flat to a walk-up with a little more space and a smattering of trees nearby, the neighborhood’s true character slowly revealed itself, becoming just as depressing or dangerous as the last. “We’re the John the Baptists of Urban Decay, alerting our fellow man to what’s coming,” Childers writes in her memoir Welfare Brat. Having watched her sisters follow in her mother’s footsteps of choosing the wrong men and inevitably becoming pregnant, from an early age Childers devoted herself to breaking the cycle and becoming the first in her family to attend college.

Knowing that Childers succeeded, eventually earning a doctorate in English literature, doesn’t make her story any easier to read. It is a sad one, especially when she writes about ignoring her own birthday because there are too many other expenses among them the October birthdays of three of her siblings between September and Christmas. Or when she describes her sister’s stunned reaction to a surprise party and sums up the peculiarities of her family: “In some households, Where do presents come from?’ is a more perplexing question than Where do babies come from?’ ” Welfare Brat is more than a memoir of growing up with the weight of the world and the baggage of Childers’ family on her shoulders; it is also a portrait of New York in the 1960s and America during the era of the “Great Society.” Childers and her family move into neighborhoods as other whites are fleeing, and she touches on the friction between ethnic groups, between generations and between traditional and slightly more progressive Catholics. Despite the tension of the times, Childers feels fortunate to have come along when she did, writing: “I had the good luck to come of age when people in the United States approved of a war on poverty rather that what Herbert J. Gans calls the war against the poor.'” Rather than becoming dependent on the system, Childers used every opportunity to escape it.

Mary Childers' large, fatherless family moved from one dilapidated apartment to another. Even when the family seemed to be trading up, moving out of a basement flat to a walk-up with a little more space and a smattering of trees nearby, the neighborhood's true…
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Readers who pick up Goldie Hawn’s new memoir in search of a steamy Hollywood tell-all may be disappointed. Though the 59-year-old Hawn, a show-biz insider since the ’60s, doubtless has plenty of those types of tales, her introspective memoir, co-written with British journalist and author Wendy Holden, focuses more on Hawn’s lifelong journey to wisdom and self-fulfillment.

Each of us goes through transitions and transformations, Hawn writes in the preface to A Lotus Grows in the Mud. The important thing is that we acknowledge them and learn from them. That is the idea behind this book. Not to tell my life story, but to speak openly and from the heart. Expressed by any other star, this sentiment might be scoffed at, but coming from Goldie Hawn, one of America’s most personable and beloved performers, you can believe it’s genuine. Goldie Studlendgehawn was born on November 21, 1945, and raised in Takoma Park, Maryland, a suburb of Washington, D.C. Her parents were both performers her mother ran a dance school, and her father played the violin. Hawn was an entertainer from an early age, and in Lotus she shares stories of her childhood, her days as a go-go dancer, her first taste of success on Laugh-In and her transition to Hollywood leading lady and brilliant comic actress. She also speaks openly about her two marriages (to Gus Trikonis and to Bill Hudson, father of her first two children, Oliver and Kate) and her relationship with longtime partner Kurt Russell. The two met on the set of the 1968 film The One and Only, Genuine, Original Family Band. Russell played a lead role, while Hawn had a bit part. When they met again on the set of the 1984 film Swing Shift, the two began a romantic relationship. They’ve been together ever since and had a son, Wyatt, in 1986, but they have not chosen to marry. As Hawn explained to Harper’s Bazaar in April, A marriage paper doesn’t do anything but sometimes close a door psychologically. I’ve always said, if I’m in a cage and you leave the door open, I’m going to fly in and fly out, but I’ll always come home. She and Russell divide their time among their homes in California, Aspen and Vancouver, where their son, Wyatt, plays hockey. Over the course of her career, Hawn has received many award nominations and a Best Supporting Actress Oscar (for her performance in Cactus Flower). She and Russell run a successful production company, Cosmic Entertainment. But as she reveals in her memoir, perhaps her favorite role is that of mother to her children. She’s also a grandmother in 2004 her daughter Kate Hudson had a son, Ryder, with her husband, former Black Crowes frontman Chris Robinson. Being a grandmother is amazing, Hawn told the San Francisco Chronicle soon after Ryder’s birth. It brings unbelivable joy. Joy comes easily to Hawn, who says the ability to choose happiness is in my DNA. Though she continues to grow spiritually and intellectually, the actress believes that fundamentally, she hasn’t changed much since her Laugh-In days. I’ve grown up, Hawn says. I’ve gone through the trials and tribulations of life. I’ve lost my parents since then. I’ve had two failed marriages. Yet the essence of that person I was has remained. Fans will enjoy getting to know that person in this frank, reflective memoir.

Readers who pick up Goldie Hawn's new memoir in search of a steamy Hollywood tell-all may be disappointed. Though the 59-year-old Hawn, a show-biz insider since the '60s, doubtless has plenty of those types of tales, her introspective memoir, co-written with British journalist and author…

Prosopagnosia (“face blindness”) is a rare neurological disorder that inhibits a person’s ability to recognize a face: When Heather Sellers brings her new husband and two stepchildren home to Florida to meet her parents, she notices the “tiny elderly woman” staring at her angrily in the gas station, but literally doesn’t know her own mother. A lifetime of social anxiety and misunderstandings (hugging the wrong man, offending her best friend by walking right past her) isn’t, however, the only perceptual challenge Sellers documents in her stunning memoir, You Don’t Look Like Anyone I Know.

Growing up with a mother who nailed windows shut, who followed suspicious vehicles on the highway and insisted that her daughter walk on her knees to save the carpet, also gave Sellers a thoroughly distorted lens through which to view the world. Amazingly, Sellers was in her late 30s before she developed any sense that her mother was mentally ill; she couldn’t recognize that the disorder and dysfunction in her own childhood was the result of her mother’s paranoid schizophrenic delusions (not to mention her father’s alcoholism and cross-dressing). This sets up a neat parallel between the twin detective stories Sellers narrates: the uncovering of her mother’s illness and the discovery of her own prosopagnosia, both of which create a skewed sense of reality.

Composing a memoir is like composing a life; for Sellers, the process of writing itself helps to correct the distorting mirrors of childhood. As a writer (if not in her messy life), Sellers is confident, a master of her craft. Her memoir is paced like a work of suspenseful fiction, moving back and forth between her childhood and her present-day quest to uncover the truth about herself and her family. A third narrative strand—about the breakdown of her marriage to libertarian Dave, who first helps her to recognize her own perceptual distortions—is equally compelling. Sellers’ balanced approach to these difficult but loving relationships is hard-won and appealing.

Despite the dire subject matter, Sellers’ writing is sprightly, even funny; this is a memoir to be devoured in great chunks. The pleasure of reading it derives both from its graceful style and from its ultimate lesson: that seeing our past for what it really was, and forgiving those involved, frees us up to love them all the more, despite their (and our) limitations.

  

Prosopagnosia (“face blindness”) is a rare neurological disorder that inhibits a person’s ability to recognize a face: When Heather Sellers brings her new husband and two stepchildren home to Florida to meet her parents, she notices the “tiny elderly woman” staring at her angrily in…

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