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Happy New Year! Time to shake off that hangover and hit the treadmill for an hour a day! Woo-hoo!

OK, maybe not. How about: Instead of the annual festival of overdoing your resolutions, then stopping cold and backsliding, why not make a series of small tweaks here and there? Author Brett Blumenthal has 52 Small Changes all picked out with your future health and happiness in mind. From easy health fixes (up your water intake, become more label-savvy, start stretching) to attitude adjustments (build your optimism, find time for yourself), this book has got you covered.

There’s a lot to like about 52 Small Changes. Each week’s project is broken down into easy steps, and the reasons why it’s a worthy undertaking are spelled out in detail. Rather than a simple “Eat more vegetables,” you get a chart breaking down the specific health benefits of several veggies along with ideas to help you incorporate more of them into your daily diet. If you’re already a master at that week’s change, there are “extra credit” ways to go beyond, such as logging your exercise regimen if you already keep a food journal. Of course, you can also take a bye week and concentrate on what you’ve learned so far.

The book has great templates to help you start a food journal, make a budget or track medical appointments; there are also websites listed throughout where you can do the same. Fifty-two small changes may seem like a lot, but taken one week at a time, there’s nothing here you can’t tackle . . . and the potential results are limitless.

Happy New Year! Time to shake off that hangover and hit the treadmill for an hour a day! Woo-hoo!

OK, maybe not. How about: Instead of the annual festival of overdoing your resolutions, then stopping cold and backsliding, why not make a series of small tweaks…

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Regina Brett, author of the New York Times bestseller God Never Blinks, now has a wonderful new collection of short essays, Be the Miracle. There’s a wealth of inspirational stories here with titles like “Dream Big,” “What You Think About You Dream About,” “Believe in Abundance” and “Carry as You Climb.” There’s a sprinkling of the spiritual, a bit of Dale Carnegie and some very practical advice on how to function more compassionately and be a bit of a miracle yourself.

The real charm of the stories in these pages is that they are alive with regular people who just happen to be amazing. They could be our parents, our neighbors or our co-workers. They include Terrence, the student who wouldn’t give up on his dream of being a neurosurgeon, even though he couldn’t attend high school; Edvarda, who fought insurmountable odds and dire poverty to send her children to college; and 17-year-old Chance Riley, who gave every penny of the prize money he got for his Grand Champion Pig to the victims of a steam engine accident because “it was the obvious thing to do. We’re all family.”

“Everyone is either your student or your teacher. Most people are both,” Brett concludes. Be the Miracle is a book that will give you a boost, teach you how to breathe and open your mind to the miracles happening all around you.

Regina Brett, author of the New York Times bestseller God Never Blinks, now has a wonderful new collection of short essays, Be the Miracle. There’s a wealth of inspirational stories here with titles like “Dream Big,” “What You Think About You Dream About,” “Believe…

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Ever wondered why you just can’t seem to make yourself get to the gym? What is the science behind your inability to pass by a plate of cookies or finally clean out your closet? The Willpower Instinct will help you figure out the answers to these questions of will.

Using both science and real-life stories, Kelly McGonigal tells us exactly what willpower is and how we can use it more effectively. Based on her popular psychology course at Stanford University, this book uncovers some common misconceptions about willpower that plague most people. For instance, did you know that too much self-control can sabotage your goals? That willpower is more like a muscle than a virtue that some are born with? McGonigal explains the science behind these facts with easy-to-understand language and examples.

This is not a book to rush through in a weekend. McGonigal asks readers to treat the book as an experiment. There are assignments in every chapter aimed at identifying how readers currently operate, and new strategies will help them practice better willpower. These assignments are accessible and easily adapted for whatever habits a reader would like to break or cultivate.

Refreshingly easy to read and peppered with stories of people who have successfully used its methods, The Willpower Instinct is a new kind of self-help book. Using science to help explain the “why” and strategies for the “how,” McGonigal has created a book that will appeal to those who want to lose a few pounds as well as those who are eager to understand why they just cannot seem to get through their to-do list. A must-read for anyone who wants to change how they live in both small and big ways.

Ever wondered why you just can’t seem to make yourself get to the gym? What is the science behind your inability to pass by a plate of cookies or finally clean out your closet? The Willpower Instinct will help you figure out the answers to…

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You can be forgiven for being distracted these days. It is a sign of the times, according to the authors of Organize Your Mind, Organize Your Life, a how-to book that manages to be both entertaining and rooted in current brain science. They write, “There was a time when you weren’t always so reachable . . . when you weren’t always being bombarded by so much stimuli, whether in the form of e-mails or texts, Twitter posts or whatever new technology may emerge . . . well, any minute now.”

Paul Hammerness, a psychiatrist at Harvard Medical School, and Margaret Moore, a wellness coach and cofounder of the Harvard Institute of Coaching, call this “the distraction epidemic”—and it’s more than just occasionally misplacing your keys. Disorganization and distraction can snowball into information overload, poor work habits, clutter and strained relationships. But Hammerness and Moore offer simple ways to harness organizational abilities that already exist in our brains.

I suspect that anyone who is in dire enough straits to need an organizational book may just skip to the appendix, where the authors lay out the six “brain skills” one needs to master in order to organize their mind—but don’t do it. Hammerness and Moore make neuroscience fun (really) and use case studies from their own work to illustrate their points. In the chapter on “applying the brakes,” for example, we meet Deborah, a soccer mom in her mid-30s who, despite all her energy and good intentions, can’t quite seem to finish what she starts. She heads out to the garage for a quick tidying up, and four hours later is still knee-deep in old sports equipment. She just can’t apply the brakes. In brain-science talk, this is called “exercising inhibitory control.” The authors offer easy, common-sense ways to build this skill—for example, applying the STOP tool (step back, think, organize your thoughts, proceed).

This is a must-read if you could use less stress and more order in your life. Log off Twitter, put down your cell phone and pick up this book.

You can be forgiven for being distracted these days. It is a sign of the times, according to the authors of Organize Your Mind, Organize Your Life, a how-to book that manages to be both entertaining and rooted in current brain science. They write, “There…

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Lee Lipsenthal’s life changed in one bite. The medical director of the Preventive Medicine Research Institute, his life’s work had been helping others work through their fears about death and live more joyfully. In July 2009, when a bite of BLT caused him abnormal discomfort, he already suspected the worst. Diagnosed with esophageal cancer, Lipsenthal found that everything he had taught others paid dividends when he needed them most: He was not afraid to die. Enjoy Every Sandwich shares what he learned along the way and commemorates his life, which ended in September 2011.

Making peace with death didn’t make life a picnic. His wife Kathy was angry at his apparent willingness to “give up,” and his children—and parents—were devastated. There were certainly hard days. But Lipsenthal kept his focus on what he could do, and used the same techniques he promoted in his job—meditation, gratitude, humor—to guide his path. His family and friends, including one pal who made hilariously convoluted plans to score him an introduction to Sir Paul McCartney, prompted him to observe, “I no longer have a bucket list. I have love in my life.”

The book’s title comes from an exchange between the late musician Warren Zevon and David Letterman, during a final interview when it was clear Zevon would not survive his own cancer diagnosis. It’s a lovely message, and it’s hard to read Enjoy Every Sandwich without coming to like Lipsenthal a lot, and grieving the loss of someone who helped so many. How sweet, then, that the book exists to make his legacy available to us all.

Lee Lipsenthal’s life changed in one bite. The medical director of the Preventive Medicine Research Institute, his life’s work had been helping others work through their fears about death and live more joyfully. In July 2009, when a bite of BLT caused him abnormal discomfort,…

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Until his untimely death at age 45 from a pulmonary embolism in December of 2006, Richard Carlson lived his life according to the motivational yet down-to-earth wisdom he penned in the best-selling Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff. While dealing with her grief, Richard’s wife, Kristine, read through 25 years’ worth of their love letters. One in particular, a letter Richard gave her on their 18th wedding anniversary, stood out and became the basis for this passionate account, An Hour to Live, an Hour to Love: The True Story of the Best Gift Ever Given.

Eerily written only three years before his death, Richard’s letter centers on his favorite quotation by author Stephen Levine: If you had an hour to live and could make just one phone call, who would it be to, what would you say . . . and why are you waiting? Looking back on his life, Richard reaffirms dismissing all of the day-to-day stuff and concentrating on the moments with the people you love. He describes how he would live his life over, listening more, loving more and not being in a hurry. Richard concludes by suggesting that we should all find what makes us happy and question whether it is worth talking about in the last hour of life.

Following her husband’s letter is Kristine’s equally moving response, which serves as a tribute to Richard’s life and work and their marriage. It is also a call to readers to develop and nurture relationships and leave the world complete, just as Richard strived to do. Followers of Richard’s books will learn more about this extraordinary man, and will continue to be inspired by his love for life. Those suffering from the loss of a spouse or partner will find comfort in Kristine’s grief process.

Until his untimely death at age 45 from a pulmonary embolism in December of 2006, Richard Carlson lived his life according to the motivational yet down-to-earth wisdom he penned in the best-selling Don't Sweat the Small Stuff. While dealing with her grief, Richard's wife, Kristine,…
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Much like Betty Friedan’s groundbreaking The Feminine Mystique unveiled “the problem that had no name” in 1963, Marriage Confidential tackles a modern-day social dilemma: the semi-happy marriage.

I don’t agree with everything author Pamela Haag posits, but I do admire her honest, wonderfully nonjudgmental examination of marriage in the 21st century. Her husband (who is either a saint or crazy for agreeing to let his wife unwrap their union for all the world to see) is apparently fine with Haag admitting right up front that she can’t tell whether her own marriage is woeful or sublime. “Marriage . . . has its own CNN-style ticker at the bottom of the screen, scrolling a fractured mental subtext of unarticulated grievances, deferred fulfillments, and lost ecstasy,” she writes.

But this book, thankfully, is not Haag indulging in navel-gazing about her own marriage. Rather, she wittily and meticulously explores what sets apart those who suffer quietly in their semi-happy marriages from those who take action—whether that action is working to improve the situation, splitting up, retreating to a man cave or having an affair. On this last point, Haag finds that the Internet has changed infidelity—she calls it “the accidental cheater in the age of Facebook and Google.” Who hasn’t peeked at an old flame’s profile photo on Facebook? But sometimes it goes further: “Facebook blurs the bright line between the illicit and the merely nostalgic and delivers temptation to your door,” she writes. “It slides the marital affair right into normal, online everyday socializing.”

So what is a married couple to do? Just when you’re starting to feel desperately pessimistic about the future of marriage, Haag concludes that it’s not a lost cause. Couples just need to worry less about convention and focus on what works for them. Ol’ Blue Eyes may have called marriage “an institute you can’t disparage,” but as Haag finds, it may just be one you can re-imagine.

Much like Betty Friedan’s groundbreaking The Feminine Mystique unveiled “the problem that had no name” in 1963, Marriage Confidential tackles a modern-day social dilemma: the semi-happy marriage.

I don’t agree with everything author Pamela Haag posits, but I do admire her honest, wonderfully nonjudgmental examination…

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While most advice books for graduates steer them toward what they should be doing to achieve a successful job, the inspirational Follow Your Dreams: Wisdom &andamp; Inspiration for Graduates encourages young adults to look inward to discover their dreams and realize the goals that will bring them closer to fulfilling them. Short stories similar to Chicken Soup for the Soul, verses from the Bible, poetry and quotes from Mother Teresa, Jesse Owens, Winston Churchill and other venerable individuals provide enlightenment and encouragement. Guided questions and descriptions of dreams, which must be nourished, require work and give us a sense that life is about more than ourselves, add further meaning. Following our dreams isn’t only about the destination; it’s about the journey. That’s sound advice for graduates young and old!

While most advice books for graduates steer them toward what they should be doing to achieve a successful job, the inspirational Follow Your Dreams: Wisdom &andamp; Inspiration for Graduates encourages young adults to look inward to discover their dreams and realize the goals that will…
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<b>Hurrah, school’s over! Now what?</b> Who better to dish out advice on the social etiquette of young adults than Lizzie Post, the great-great-granddaughter of Emily Post? <b>How Do You Work This Life Thing?: Advice for the Newly Independent on Roommates, Jobs, Sex, and Everything That Counts</b> is more than a guide to wedding receptions, tipping, ordering wine, or the proper fork (although these topics are addressed). The fourth-generation Post espouses good manners when it comes to roommates, landlords, dating, entertaining, cell phones, health clubs, couch crashing and even one-night stands (yes, be sure to leave a note ). Post’s conversational, down-to-earth tone, helpful lists (e.g., The Four Cardinal Rules of Borrowing and Ten Easy Hors d’Oeuvres ), questions and answers ˆ la great-great-grandmother Emily, and myriad Instant Tips combine to make this the quintessential guide for 20-somethings who strive for or simply need social grace.

<b>Hurrah, school's over! Now what?</b> Who better to dish out advice on the social etiquette of young adults than Lizzie Post, the great-great-granddaughter of Emily Post? <b>How Do You Work This Life Thing?: Advice for the Newly Independent on Roommates, Jobs, Sex, and Everything That…

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Dynamic Texas preacher Joel Osteen proved to be as successful an author as he is a pastor: his congregation at Lakewood Church in Houston is 28,000 strong and one of the fastest-growing in America, according to Forbes.com and his faith-based self-help book, Your Best Life Now: 7 Steps for Living at Your Full Potential, shot straight up the bestseller list when it was published late last year. The inspirational guide, which shared insights from Osteen’s sermons and lessons, struck a chord with readers, and this month, Warner Faith is releasing an accompanying journal, Your Best Life Now Journal: A Guide to Reaching Your Full Potential. The charismatic young pastor took over his father’s congregation after the older Osteen’s sudden death in 1999. His honest and practical advice urges readers to take time for reflection and devote one week to master each of the seven principles, which include letting go of the past, enlarging one’s vision, living to give, developing a healthy self-image and choosing to be happy. Scripture quotes that support each principle are included, and extra space is provided to record thoughts, ideas and emotions that will be sure to surface along the way.

Though his sermons are aired on television and radio each week, Osteen and his wife Victoria are currently on a 15-city stadium tour across the U.S. to spread their motivational message in person. Despite his popularity, Osteen feels his ideas are simple. I just have a message of hope and victory, he says.

Dynamic Texas preacher Joel Osteen proved to be as successful an author as he is a pastor: his congregation at Lakewood Church in Houston is 28,000 strong and one of the fastest-growing in America, according to Forbes.com and his faith-based self-help book, Your Best Life…
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Self-help books crowd the shelves of America’s bookstores, beckoning consumers with all sorts of hopeful promises—from thinner thighs and bigger bank accounts to spiritual and sexual nirvanas. Though Richard Stengel’s publisher has placed his instructive book, Mandela’s Way, in the self-help genre, it stands head and shoulders above the rest of the assistive literary hoi polloi.

Stengel, the editor of Time magazine, collaborated with the liberator and Nobel Peace Prize winner Nelson Mandela on his 1994 autobiography, Long Walk to Freedom. He spent nearly three years with Mandela, conducting hours of extensive interviews, traveling with him, shadowing his every move. “I kept a diary of my time with him that eventually grew to 120,000 words,” writes Stengel in the book’s introduction. “Much of this book comes from those notes.”

Distilled from those jottings are 15 essential lessons modeled on Stengel’s observations and interpretations of Mandela’s courage and wisdom, exemplary leadership, compassion and love of humanity. From clear words on courage and self-control (“be measured”) to the benefits of presenting a good image, seeing the good in others, keeping your rivals and enemies close (this particular dictum is famously chronicled in the recent movie Invictus) and believing in the difference that love can make, the lessons are seamlessly intertwined with stories from Mandela’s life. This texture is one of the book’s key strengths, but a beautiful grace note is Stengel’s undiluted—yet clear-sighted—regard for the complex man who survived an unspeakably difficult 27-year incarceration and who said of his prison experience, “I came out mature.”

Ultimately, the true light of this inspirational book is the utter believability of these lessons. The hotheaded young Mandela, protégé of a tribal king who turned into a fierce freedom fighter, grew gradually into a man who, literally and figuratively, “found his own garden.” Though at age 91 Mandela is in the twilight of his life, he still personifies this grand lesson plan, these 15 deceptively simple steps to empowering self and others.

Alison Hood writes from Marin County, California.

Self-help books crowd the shelves of America’s bookstores, beckoning consumers with all sorts of hopeful promises—from thinner thighs and bigger bank accounts to spiritual and sexual nirvanas. Though Richard Stengel’s publisher has placed his instructive book, Mandela’s Way, in the self-help genre, it stands head…

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Coke or Pepsi. Bush or Gore. Sink or swim. If asked to select from any of these pairs, you might assume taste, political affiliation and basic human nature would influence your respective choices. But in Sheena Iyengar’s view, it’s more likely that emotional ties to a brand, the randomness of where a name appears on a ballot and the notion that survival is still possible are what swayed you in one direction or another.

And Iyengar should know. A professor at Columbia University and innovator in the study of choice, her work has been cited by many authors; you’ll probably find that you’ve heard of at least one of her studies before, such as the “jam study.” Iyengar and her research team set up an experiment in a Draeger’s supermarket in which they let customers sample from either six or 24 flavors of gourmet jam. Thirty percent of those who sampled from the smaller batch bought a jar of jam, but only 3 percent who sampled from the larger group made a purchase. The moral? Sometimes less to choose from leads to more in terms of sales; too many choices may dissuade us from making any choice at all.

In The Art of Choosing, Iyengar recounts her studies and observations with an emphasis on helping us to be more thoughtful and better-informed when faced with decisions. Sometimes that’s just a matter of knowing you have choices; at other times, eliminating multiple options is the key to wise decisions. “Unlike captive animals,” she writes, “. . . we have the ability to create choice by altering our interpretations of the world.” So can we filter out bias and rely only on our core values to make decisions?

The book’s studies and hypothetical questions draw from psychology, economics, medicine, philosophy and other fields to show how often choice is an issue; this grab-bag approach keeps the writing from bogging down in any one topic while still making points effectively. Iyengar’s wit and engaging writing style ease the reader through chapters on harder choices, from taking a loved one off life support to the paradox inherent in American life: that freedom of choice should make us happy, but having too many options is overwhelming and often leads to depression. These and other hard choices—even “Sophie’s Choice”—are thoughtfully explored. She also offers a description of her parents’ arranged marriage as an example of freedom from choice.

Iyengar hopes that understanding the thinking behind our choices may lead us to “metaphorical multilingualism,” or understanding that goes beyond mere tolerance. She manifests it in her own work by writing with “sighted” language despite being blind since early childhood, and she encourages others to take a step outside what they might consider normal in order to enlarge their own views on life. Read The Art of Choosing, and be prepared to see the options life presents you through new eyes.

Heather Seggel reads and writes in Ukiah, California.

 

 

Coke or Pepsi. Bush or Gore. Sink or swim. If asked to select from any of these pairs, you might assume taste, political affiliation and basic human nature would influence your respective choices. But in Sheena Iyengar’s view, it’s more likely that emotional ties to…

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The Voice of Knowledge: A Practical Guide to Inner Peace, by Don Miguel Ruiz, is a small, but mind-expanding book based on ancient Toltec wisdom. The Toltec society formed thousands of years ago near what is now Mexico City, in order to explore and conserve the spiritual knowledge and practices of the ancient ones. An expansion of his popular book, The Four Agreements, this new volume offers more Toltec wisdom: Be impeccable with your word. Don’t take anything personally. Don’t make assumptions. Always do your best. Ruiz describes his own spiritual journey but offers many Points to Ponder that will propel you on your own search for wisdom and inner peace. So what are you waiting for? With books like these to guide you, put your best foot forward and march confidently into the new year. The best is yet to come! Linda Stankard continues to be her own work in progress.

The Voice of Knowledge: A Practical Guide to Inner Peace, by Don Miguel Ruiz, is a small, but mind-expanding book based on ancient Toltec wisdom. The Toltec society formed thousands of years ago near what is now Mexico City, in order to explore and conserve…

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